Special in Overprotecting Offspring



      Man is special and have the inner love of overjealously and overprotecting their offspring.  
       Fears - ranging from concern about their child being harmed to worries about their child's future education or career. 
       Thinking of their offspring is in constant peril from a lot of things, starting with safety on down to the peril of not getting into a good college.

Overprotection manifests as:


 -  Too much supervision.

-  Bringing children to school, not allowing child to go to school with his friends.

-  Supervising them at play.
-  Driving children to after-school activities.

-  Not allowing children to play by themselves.

-  Doing too much for our children, dressing them, feeding them, doing their homework.

-  Not allowing the child to have his own opinions.

-  Not believing your child.

-  Interfering in your child's arguments.

-  Not letting your child out to play.

-  Being afraid to let your child stay overnight in a friend's house.

-  Anxiety about the child whenever he is away.

-  Feeling uneasy about letting somebody else look after your child.

-  Choosing your child's friends.

Today's kids : 

    i.    may never know the no-cares time of innocence, exploration and imagination that          their  parents recall about childhood, 

   ii.  lost the sense of allowing children to be children, to have that period of time in their         lives  burdening them with a zillion things to do. 

       Kids need unstructured time to unwind and relax, just to play without worrying about their performance

Overprotection stifles growth, 

   a. it takes away opportunities to make decisions, to solve disputes, 
  b. to choose, to deal with one's own life situations. 

        If we don't allow chil­dren the opportunity to acquire and practise the skills of the effective child, then they will not have them when they need them, and will have no practice at using them. When they encounter people who have them, they will be unable to cope, and will react by becoming overly defensive or overly aggressive.

The skills of the effective child are the ability to:
-  Interact, to argue and debate with peers.

-  Accept the other person's point of view.

- Accept that, can't always win.

-  Negotiate.

-  Say how ones feels.

-  Share sadness and happiness.

-  Have sympathy.

-  Own anger, sadness, joy without feeling  ashamed.

- Be aware of her body and its capabilities.

- Share personal space without feeling threatened.

- Assert her position without being aggressive.

- Know what he is capable of and what he is not capable of.

- Take risks.

- Take credit for success.

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