Man : Mouth, Tongue and Words

       The mouth is a dangerous weapon, which can work for or against you, depending on how it is used. Your mouth is not meant for eating alone it is also an instrument for charting the course of your life.

           

 The “tongue” is one of the most exercised muscles of our body. The average adult typically utters 40,000 words each day, according to a study performed by Professor Robin Dunbar of Liverpool University.

          The power of the spoken word is one of the most encouraging or damaging things that can affect a person life. 

               Let us be careful with our words. For they dispatch meaning and ideas. They provoke thoughts and build principles. They form behaviour and habits. So, we who speak must choose our words carefully and wisely, lest we lead others to believe and ultimately behave

Encouraging Words

         One of the most powerful things your words can do is to change the world in which you live. By your choice of words you can influence others in positive ways and as a result achieve peace and prosperity in your life. The following are ways to realize that:

·         Pay a genuine compliment or a kind word to someone who crosses your path.

·          Say something nice to build someone's self-esteem and self-confidence.

·         Your words can encourage and motivate someone by saying "you did a good job."

·         Say words of comfort to someone sad or grieving.

·         Use your words to admit when you were wrong.

·         Use your words to say "I'm sorry"

·         Don't forget to say "Thank You"

·         Use your words to show appreciation. Use your words to show respect for others.

·         Say thing funny to make someone smile and brighten up their day.

·         Use your words to help that special someone in your life feel secure with your love.

·         Use your words to speak from your heart to give thanks for the blessing in your life.

·         Use your words to praise your child for their efforts.

·         Say words to let your children know what a gift they are to you.

Words of wisdom.

• Words are inspiring. Words can bring out the goodness in every man.
• Words are unselfish. 
• Words are there to share you the chance to know what is true and what is not.
• Words are friends of thoughts. You can often share your thoughts through words. 
• Words make it easy for knowledge to outlive any human lifetime.
• Words can be deceitful. Words can be subtle. They can inflict pain and they can provide comfort.
• Words can make things a whole lot worse and they can make things a whole lot better. There are things you wish you had said and there are things you wish you hadn’t said. 
• Words are found in every prayer and every curse. Sin in action but forgiveness is in words. 
• Words too can be sung. They can cheer you up. They can remind you of the pain you once had and the pain you are yet amidst. And when a song that is sung breathes its final note, you are left with a memory. 
• Words are comforting. Have you ever heard of a promise that was never stated in words? Perhaps not.

Words commonly used in our everyday conversations:

     1.    Try

“I’ll try to get it finished by…” “I’ll try to catch up with you on Saturday”

Whoever says  this , they are not serious and doesn’t want it to happen.

Make a clearer commitment instead by saying “I’ll have it done by…” “I am free at this time and I can meet you then…” or if need be, “I can’t promise anything but I will do my best to ….”

    2.   Wish

Wishing is daydreaming, waiting for ball to drop or the fairy godmother to appear. Change wish to “I will…” “I am…” I’m determined….” “I deserve…” “I desire”

   3.   I am

The term “I am” to define who you are. You are not angry; neither depressed, nor happy. They are temporary emotions that comes and goes. If you define yourself to excuses such as “I can’t do this because I am depressed” “There is nothing I can do about it, this is who I am.”

A better way to say it clearly,  “I feel angry. I feel depressed”

This lets yourself know that it is a temporary feeling which could quite easily change.

   4. If

Muttering, “If I get that promotion then…” “If the money arrives then…”    will not get you nowhere.

“If” always presents the element of doubt. Doubt and insecurity don’t bring you what you want, certainty and confidence does. So instead of “if”, simply make it “when”

“When I get that new job…. “

Signals that you are serious and committed and you believe and you deserves it.

  5. Should

A wishy promise word. “I should call my mother more.” “I should go to the gym tonight.” A feelings of guilt and complacency.

The only matter; is doing it.

Should can be turned in to “I will…” or “I am going to…”

  6. I can’t

There is no such thing as can’t in motivational sense. As soon as your brain hears you say the word can’t, it goes on a holiday. It shuts down and celebrates because it no longer has to find a way to do it.

“I can try” means that you open up a creative space for learning and exploring that may just bring you new ways of thinking and doing.

When my daughter says “Mummy, I can’t,” my response is, “Maybe, but you can always try first and see. Let’s have a go!”

   7. Desperate

When we really want something there is a tendency to attach the word desperate to it, as if this word will hold some power to bring it to us faster.

“I am desperate for him to call me” “I am in desperate need of a transfer.”

Desperation breeds more things to be desperate about. It is not an attractive word.

Instead say “I am so excited that he is going to be calling me tonight. “I really desire a transfer and am ready to go!”

   8. Luck

This is my least favourite word. I really despise it as I often hear it said to me, “You are so lucky to travel like you do.”

Don’t put it luck, push it then take action. If you do this, then you are not :

1)      Not recognizing and appreciating all the hard work to do the best

2)      Giving  up before you even start creating the life you want

Proverb

 .                                Be careful of your thoughts, for your thoughts become your words. 
                        Be careful of your words, for your words become your actions.
            Be careful of your actions, for your actions become your habits

                  Be careful of your habits  for your habits  become your character.
            Be careful of your character, for your character becomes your destiny."

     Author unknown

Below are six ways to make your words more meaningful:

1. Make sure that your words are supported by your actions. Often leaders “talk a good game” but lack “walk the talk”.  Speak words that build-up not tear-down.
2. Be transparent. You are not perfect and do not have all the answers. Transparency shows your humanity. It builds trust.
3. Ask more often than you tell. Be curious about people’s thought and their knowledge. Great ideas and insight will be forthcoming to you. You will learn a lot. Credit for those who earned it. It will encourage sharing.
4. Hold people accountable for their role and be accountable for yours. Make sure expectations are clearly communicated and measured. Live up to whatever expectations set by you.
5. Communicate your Vision.  You are the custodian of the vision. Communicate it often and weave it into every initiative, project and event.  No vision – No focus. No focus – no drive. People want to be involved, give them a chance.
6. Be visible. Being seen is being accessible. Being visible is not about “looking over everyone’s shoulder.” It involves all aspects of media, written communications, interviews, team meetings/celebrations, etc. Visible leaders create engagement. Visible leaders inspire confidence.

Finally, remember that each day you are adding to your story. You may not always have the opportunity to edit the story everyday. So take advantage of this rare opportunity…edit where and when necessary.

Must-Read Life Lessons from Gandhi:

1. Be the Change

    “You must be the change you want to see in the world.”

Be the example, be the leader.  If you lead properly people will follow, and together you will change the world.  Anyone can complain, anyone can blame, and most do, but if you desire to change, then “you” be the change.

2. Ask the Right Questions

   “The power to question is the basis of all human progress.”

The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of the questions that you dare to ask.  Are you asking the right questions?  Are you asking the right people?  You can’t get answers, without questions; you can’t make progress, without an inquiring mind.

3.  Always Act

    “Have a bias towards action – let’s see something happen now. You can break that big plan into  

      small steps and take the first step right away.”

If you’re going to be biased, be biased towards making something happen today.  Tomorrow never comes, any progress to be made, must be made today.  It must be made right now!

If you don’t act now, you don’t have a future, just a longer today.  Gandhi said, “The future depends on what we do in the present.”

4. Forgive

   “The weak can never forgive.  Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”

It’s not “weaklings” who are quick-to-forgive; it’s those who are strongest.  The ability to forgive quickly is a sign of strength.  How strong are you?

If you’ve been weak in the past, you can begin today to be strong.

5. Monitor Your Beliefs

   “Your beliefs become your thoughts.  Your thoughts become your words.  Your words become your actions.  Your actions become your habits.  Your habits become your values.  Your values become your destiny.”